Those mothers who have gone before us have knowing smiles when they see our growing bellies. They've experienced the joy of motherhood firsthand, but also the hardship and sleepless nights - especially in that first year. It can be one of the loneliest times in many women's lives, with the village that we're supposed to have being noticeably absent for many busy modern families. Finding mothers going through the same experiences at the same time can be one of the best parts of new motherhood, and those catch ups surely make the days less lonely (and much more manageable). So where do you find your mama tribe (and make new friends as a new mother)?
Whether they are through your local health clinic, paid for (like the Nascent Mothers Group which includes coffee and guest speakers!), informal through friends, these are best started early on (think those first 3 months), but can definitely work for older bubs too! Create a Facebook group, Whatsapp chat or text chain and be sure to keep in communication regularly. Finding a regular time or day can be great during materinity leave, and will give you something to look forward to each week!
Yoga, Pilates and Fitness Classes
Not all of us are cut out for mothers groups (sitting around talking can feel a little intimidating for introverts) so postpartum recovery fitness classes can feel a little more easeful as there's something else to focus on! Mums & Bubs Yoga and Pilates (like here at Nascent or at the incredible Articulate Physiotherapy), mums and bub bootcamps, physio fitness classes and Kanga training are all fantastic options
There are SOOOO many classes available for bubs these days! Music classes, swimming lessons, baby sensory - the list goes in! Brisbane has tonnes of baby classes these days, and focusing on bub can really take the pressure off if you're a little shy! Check out Brisbane City Council libraries for free activities for older bubs too!
Whatever option you choose in those early days, the most important thing is to keep reaching out to people, even if friendships don't bloom straight away! Juggling babies, families, friends and work on little sleep can mean that often plans will be cancelled or things will change. Try to put out invitations to other mums without any expectations, and try not to take cancelled plans too personally. Your mama tribe will build, grow and change as your little one gets older and is interested in different things. The more activities you sign up for, the more mamas you meet, the more likely you are to meet your people!
If nothing else, it will get you out of the house and into the world in those early days where it all feels so daunting, with mums in exactly the same boat as you! Just one conversation can be enough to completely change how you're feeling in a day, and make early motherhood seem just a little bit less lonely.
We get it! You've already got friends and you've heard some stories about mothers groups before. About catty mums and lots of judgement, comparing babies and cliques. But you've just had a baby (maybe it's your first or maybe it's your third) and you've realised that all your friends are at different stages. They're childless still or their kids are at school. You're at home with a screaming potato and you need to get out of the house! There are plenty of reasons to join a modern mothers group, and we've got 5 great reasons to persuade you to come!